Adoptions are moving!

We got good news today! And just when I was at the end of my rope (good thing I didn't post earlier today)! This is not news specifically on our adoptions, but this news does mean that good news on our adoptions is in the near future! Here is the part of the report we received today (the good news part).


"It looks like generally things continue to move along well as more families move into and out of IBESR’s. A little interesting information:
Of those turning in their dossiers between April and Dec 31, 2010, 17 are in or through IBESR's (11 are presently in IBESR’s and 6  are out of IBESR’s) and 8 are still working toward IBESR’s. "

And right before we received this message we heard from one of our friends that they are now in IBESR! Which means there are actually 19 kids in or through IBESR and 6 kids whose paperwork is working and waiting to be approved into IBESR. Wondering who these kids are? Go to our "Found" link to see their pics...and please, please pray for them too! 
So where does this leave us? We submitted our dossier May 15th, 2010. Ours is one of the "11 presently in IBESR". Wondering what IBESR is? IBESR stands for " Institut du Bien-Etre Social et Recherches " in French. In English, this means the Institute of Social Well-Being and Research.

What does IBESR do for our adoptions? 
IBESR is the Haitian Social Services. They have social workers that study our dossier to see whether we meet their requirements to adopt a child. They also judge whether your proposed child is a good match for your family. Once the social worker approves, then IBESR gives a Certificate of Authorization telling the courts that they have approved you to adopt your Haitian child. This is a long process and there are many steps (see previous post or our Haiti's Adoption Process link at the top of our blog...which shoud be titled "Haiti's Forever and Painfully Long Adoption Process"). Ok it's late and I promised myself (and the Lord) that I would relish in this encouragement and not revert to my down in the dumps state I was in to prior to receiving this report.  Just want to publicly share our excitement that some of our friends (and our girls friends) are through IBESR! Whohoo! Adoptions are moving! And we could be next!

Picture taken March 16th, 2011 the night before we were to leave early the next morning. Girls were in full swing drama mode blowing kisses and waving goodbye to their friends pretending they were going home with us. They carried on all the way through the top floor, down the stairs, through the 2nd story, and ended in their own sleeping quarters where they quietly stashed this suitcase we left with them to hold all their shared earthly belongings. We love how they often throw in some humor to ease the pain before we have to leave them again. This was one of those times, and they did a very good job at making us laugh. Everyone else seemed totally confused. Our girls are good actresses, but even more than that they are the bravest souls we know.
How we long for the day that this won't be an act, but the real deal. Home. One day.

Happy Birthday Esmée Noel...You are truly Much Loved!

Our precious Esmée,

Today is May 16th, 2011. Today is the day we are celebrating your birthday! We realize there is only a 1 in 365 chance that this is truly the day you were born, but also realize there are some things we just have to wait to find out until we all get to our forever home. Your real birth day is just one of many things we don't get to know and understand this side of Heaven, but we have peace through our all knowing God that surpasses all understanding.

We are celebrating the day you were born on May 16th for many reasons. One reason is that this is the day that is listed on your paperwork. Most likely you were born in the rural countryside without a nearby hospital, so there is not an official record of your birth. However, your orphanage must have documents proving you exist. We are so thankful for your beautiful existence sweet girl! The paperwork says that you are turning 12 years old today, though it is also unlikely that is actually your age. When I first held you in my arms last April and discussed your case with the orphanage director, I asked him what age he was going to put on your paperwork? He asked me, "What age would you like her to be?" After I got over the shock of this question, the answer that finally came out was "8"..."please make her 8 years old." I came up with this age for a few reasons. One being that it was at that time April of 2010 and I didn't want you to be turning 9 in May, which would now make you 10. Last April you weighed only 38 pounds and were smaller than my then 5 year old Ethan. Your had never been to school and only knew your A, B, C's. You couldn't tell me your birthday, but said you were "9". I figured you could just be nine for a really long time. I asked the director if there was something significant about the date May 16th. He shook his head yes saying, "I do believe this date holds some significance"...and so it does. I later asked David Birdy who knew about how you came to the orphanage and a little of your background, how old he thinks you really are? He asked me what date was listed as your birthday, and I told him "May 16th, 1999". He began to laugh. I asked him why he was laughing and he said, "May 16th is my birthday!". I thought, "oh how sweet that Esmée shares her birthday with David Birdy who shares part of her story"...but couldn't quite figure out why this was so funny. David then proceeded to tell me that he was helping out at your orphanage after the earthquake and was entering the children's data into computer files. When he came to Belinda Noel he knew your story well enough to know that there was no way to know your real birthday. He didn't know what to enter into the computer, so he just entered his own birthday. This is the story behind why May 16th was chosen as the day to celebrate your birth, but there are also other special reasons why we want to celebrate it today!

Esmée's Profile Pic
I remember staring at the first picture we received of your sweet face. I gazed into your paper eyes and made a connection that I couldn't shake. My heart told me from that moment on that you were my daughter. When I held you and connected with your real life eyes a few months later, I knew my heart had been right. May 16th is special because that is the date we saw printed next to the face that I looked at hundreds of times before I saw you in person...before I took hundreds of other pictures to hold until we would hold you again.

Our family was excited that your profile listed May 16th as your birthday. February (Elita Marguerite's b-day month) and May are the two biggest birthday months celebrated in our family and extended family. We believed this was yet another confirmation showing us you and Marguerite were meant to be in our family.

May 16th is also very special because it is the day that our friends traveling to Haiti delivered our dossiers containing our official adoption paperwork. One year ago today we knew our adoptions would officially be able to begin. One year ago today we knew we had kept our promise to you to do everything we could do to bring you home.

We are celebrating you today Esmée because we believe that one day soon we will bring you home and you will officially become our daughter. You know we call you Esmée because in those first weeks of staring at your paper face we didn't know your name, but oh how we loved you! The profile picture said "Belinda Noel" next to your face, but we were told right away that this was not your name. We were later told your name is Delenda, and have been given other names (Melinda, Berlinda) as well. We know there is no way to know if Delenda is the name your birth parents gave you just as we don't know your age or the real date your mother gave birth to you. We think that your birth father's last name is "Noel", and we want you to keep this name too. We called you Esmée because it means "Much Loved" and because you are much loved. God's word tells us that while we only "know in part...when the fullness of time comes, what is in part will disappear. Now we know in part; but then we shall know fully, even as we are fully known"(from 1 Corinthians 13:9,12). In light of eternity, it doesn't matter if we know your real name or the day you were born. What really matters is that your Heavenly Father gave you precious life, and you are "fully known" and much loved by Him. We are so blessed to even know you "in part"...and we love all the parts we do know about you. Our favorite part is that we know you love Jesus, and that your faith and hope in Him have carried you this far. There was a time this past year that it seemed our Lord wanted you home with Him even before you come home to us.
Esmée when she was deathly sick Oct./Nov. 2010
We are thankful that He has granted us more time with you, and we cherish each day of your life. Happy 9th (or it could be your 10th, 11th, or even 12th) birthday! Someday we will live together in our forever home where age and time will fade away and all that matters is that we are His...that He loved us so much that He sent His Son...that He is preparing our forever home even now. But for now "these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love"(1 Cor. 13:13). This love "always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres....and never fails" (13:7,8). We pray this love over you today, and every day our much loved girl!
Healthy and very happy Esmée in March 2011

Keeping our focus...a great lesson from Orphan's Matchbox


Written By: Heidi Weimer (WeHaveRoom.org)

While I have always had a burning passion for social justice (yes, I was “that” kid way back in the 5th grade), it wasn’t until the last four years—when the repercussions of social injustice were up close and personal in my own home after adopting six kids from Ethiopia—that my lifelong passion transformed into a zeal much like Jeremiah described in the Scriptures as “a fire shut up in my bones. I am weary of holding it in; indeed, I cannot” (Jeremiah 20:9). [Those of you who have ever followed my blogs or Facebook are probably nodding your head with gusto right about now and thinking that is the understatement of the year.]
Thanks in no small part to social media, the adoption community has grown rapidly over the last few years. The evolution of blogging, tweeting, and Facebooking has proven absolutely invaluable for the sake of the orphan, both in simple awareness and in fundraising. In turn, the adoption community has exploded online into a mighty force for the Kingdom as well as a unique support network for adoptive families. For all of the evils and annoyances of social media (and there are plenty), these are the things that make it worthwhile as a redemptive tool in the Kingdom.
During the last couple of years of watching this virtual adoption community increase exponentially, I have noticed that the collective passion has transformed into a collective zeal for the sake of the orphan. The Church, slowly but surely even if still with a long way to go, is awakening to God’s heart for the most vulnerable. THIS IS A GREAT THING and particularly refreshing for those of us who tend to feel like the social justice oddballs in the Church. I believe that God must be incredibly pleased with this awakening. In fact, since it is HIS movement in HIS Church for the sake of HIS children, I am sure of it.
While observing and cheering on this movement for the orphan, however—and particularly during extended quieted seasons when the Lord has asked me to turn inward and sanctify myself for Him—God has been gently showing me that we can very subtly pervert this miraculous movement of God into a ministry that misses both the point (serving Jesus) and the target (the lost world). We can very easily veer from the precipitating Person of our passion until we are no longer following Jesus into the world, but instead building a ministry to others as a cloak for making a name for ourselves—even amidst all of our so-called self-sacrificing. It is a fine line, yes, but one that distinguishes between serving our Savior because of His righteousness and serving our self-righteousness in the name of our Savior.
This is not a new danger for Christ’s followers, for it afflicts ancient and modern believers alike. Christ’s own disciples were scolded on more than one occasion for turning their commission from Christ into their own ministry, albeit all for the Kingdom, or so they were intending. After Jesus sent out the seventy-two to go two-by-two in His name throughout the region, Luke writes that they returned “with joy,” thrilled that “even the demons submit” to them (Luke 10:17). Jesus didn’t exactly holy-high-five them and express His prodigious pride in them for “getting it” (a phrase us adoption/orphan advocates use frequently when describing ourselves vs. those who haven’t jumped onboard the orphan bandwagon). Instead, Jesus reminds the seventy-two of Satan’s fall from Heaven (remember that ugly sin of pride?) and told them, “Whoa, slow down that kind of talk. Don’t go around jumping for joy that you’re some mighty Kingdom force. No, just be thankful that you’re Mine. Period…” (Luke 10:20, my translation). In other words, we are to “fix our eyes [only] on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith” (Hebrews 12:2, NIV). Seem simple?
It’s easy to look around and point out the idols of our surrounding Babylon, but it’s a bit trickier (and far less pleasurable) to reflect inward on our own hearts and honestly consider that we might ourselves have turned a gospel of redemption for the orphan into a platform for our own righteousness (and thus an idol). We can fall into the temptation to compare our own passion for justice for the poor with the “little” that others are doing, and suddenly we feel a little more than righteous. Remembering that “our acts of righteousness are filthy rags,” we ought to steer very clear of any such comparisons to others (Isaiah 64:6).
I often hear adoption and orphan advocates talking in terms of those who “get it” and those who don’t. On the surface, I understand, and I’ve been guilty of the same chatter (probably in the last 24 hours, if I’m guessing). But maybe, just maybe, in the midst of us “getting” this orphan thing down right, we’re not actually getting it. Maybe we—those of us who claim collectively to “get it”—are treading dangerously close to missing the point entirely. If we’re not extremely careful, we can pervert the “true religion” of James 1:27 into religious legalism, holding up a religious measuring stick by which we judge others who aren’t in our “camp.”(Does the label Pharisee scare anyone?) Let’s check out this parable together and refresh our collective memory:
To some who were confident of their own righteousness and looked down on everyone else, Jesus told this parable: “Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. The Pharisee stood by himself and prayed: ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other people—robbers, evildoers, adulterers—or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week and give a tenth of all I get.’ But the tax collector stood at a distance. He would not even look up to heaven, but beat his breast and said, ‘God, have mercy on me, a sinner.’ I tell you that this man, rather than the other, went home justified before God. For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.” (Luke 18:9-14, emphasis mine)
Ouch.
Would not the saddest irony be for believers in the orphan movement today to get “true religion” but become true religious Pharisees in the process? Church, let us be so cautious. Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, not on ourselves or on others. Let us not pursue adoption or orphan care because it is the newest, trendiest stamp of righteousness in the Church. Let us not become advocates because so-and-so did and “has such a great story” and we want to be just like them. Or so that we can proudly wave our own banners and get some attention in the Kingdom. We serve but one Master, and “no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him” (John 13:16). As Jedd Medefind reminded us at Summit VII, we cannot truly reflect Jesus “if we aren’t hungry for Him and in love with HIM.” We will instead reflect our own selves and our own zeal from a dimly lit bulb, all the while foolishly screaming the self-righteous message “My light is brighter than yours.”
There is one Great Light of the world that we are to reflect. Church, it’s time to check our motives. What is fueling our passion for the orphan? Have we gotten off-target? Have we made an idol of adoption? Has our own passion become our precipitator? Have we begun to serve a cause instead of our Christ? Have we made “true religion” our own “little g” god? Don’t think that it’s not a possibility. Just ask the Pharisees. After all, they thought they “got it.”
If we truly want to impact our world, as I believe those involved in orphan care earnestly desire to purely do, let’s bow at Jesus’ feet and serve Him alone. In turn, the orphan gets rescued, the lost found, the imprisoned set free, and the abused redeemed, and Jesus alone will get the glory. Isn’t that what this is all about, anyway?
Praise Him. The Capital G God. Hallelujah forever.

Sing with me!

There are days when the words just won't come. It seems I have voiced the same prayer over and over for so long and I am tired of the words. I know my Heavenly Father doesn't grow weary of hearing them, but I do. Songs of prayer and praise written by others are a constant comfort when my own words fail. This song is most special because it was written with the children at Haiti Children's Rescue Mission in mind. Cindy Foote wrote this while visiting her adoptive daughter (experiencing what we have when we have visited our girls at the same place) and longing for the day we will be able to bring our children home. I first heard this song performed by Cindy on the anniversary of the Jan. 12th earthquake, and have been humming it ever since. I received the recorded version on Mother's Day! Perhaps you have felt the same way at times. But when the words won't come, please don't stop praying for us. Just sing with me...


When we cannot see you moving
When it seems the dark has won
May you find us still believing
That you want this more than us
You will finish what you started
And your plans for us are good
Help us cling to what you promised
You are faithful, You are sure to 
BRING OUR CHILDREN HOME!