Boys Meet Girls!

"God sets the lonely in families." Psalm 68:6

Evan Daniel, Esmée (Delenda) Noel, Ethan Andrew, and Elita Marguerite
Click this link to read all about our first times together on our family blog!
We praise the Lord for blessing us with this wonderful time together! We also praise the Lord that the need (from the last post) for the remaining $1,000 needed for the girls final adoption fee has been met! And we praise the Lord for those who prayed and those who gave and those who love to see orphans placed in families! Thank you! We love you!

Adoption Progress...Is the end in sight?

September 1st...3 days before we left for Haiti we received long awaited news on our adoption progress! We are out of IBESR! IBESR (also referred to as "the black hole") is the place that our paperwork had been "processing" for the past 4 1/2 months. No other progress can happen on adoptions until the paperwork comes out of IBESR. Once it goes into IBESR you have no choice but to wait and pray that everything will be approved and that eventually it will come out! So excited we are out...so what is next?
Well when I look at this list things are looking really great. I crossed out what already has been accomplished so you can feel the triumph with us!


BASIC OVERVIEW OF HAITI ADOPTION PROCESS


1.  Get your homestudy done.

2.  Notarize documents for your adoption package to be sent to Haiti.

3.  Send notarized documents to Secretary of State to be authenticated.

4.  Get notarized, authenticated documents translated into French.

5.  Send I-600A and supporting documents to USCIS.

6.   Send French and English documents (adoption package) to Haitian Consulate to be legalized.

7.   Send your adoption package to Haiti.

8.  Send first payment of Haiti adoption fee to Haiti to begin adoption process of a particular child.

9.  Orphanage director compiles child’s documents.

10.  Haitian lawyer reviews adoptive parents’ and child’s file.

11.  File enters IBESR (the social services dept of Haiti).

12.  IBESR director approves this adoption.

13.  Orphanage director works to attain child’s Haitian passport.

14.  You file more USCIS forms.

15.  USCIS approves this adoption.

16.  Child gets U.S. VISA.

Ok so this looks like we are twelve steps down and only 2 more to go...right?

Wrong. 

More detailed confusing steps are below.


IBESR approves the adoption. That's where we are at now.

Dossier goes to Parquet Office.  (or Commissary)
a.  Homologation
b. Parquet
c. Justice Palace
d. Exequature
e. Civil Register
f. Authorization for signature of Adoption Decree
g. Parquet Legalization  (This is the  second “First Legalization”)

7. Courts
a. Ministry of Justice (Second Legalization)
b. Ministry of Foreign Affairs (Third Legalization)
c. Attestation of Signatures on Adoption Decree

Archives

Immigration submits papers to Minister of Interior to get approval to make child’s Haitian passport.

Minister of Interior gives passport authorization to Immigration.

Immigration prints passport.

DHS
a. Adoptive Parent files I-600
b. DHS interviews birth parents
c. US Embassy approves visa application.

US Embassy prints child’s US visa.

We are now waiting to get our Haitian and U.S. (at the U.S. Embassy in Haiti) interviews. We should be able to get these done in the next 6 weeks here in Haiti once our orphanage director schedules them. These court appointments will cover some of the items in the longer list above. We made sure to bring all the necessary paperwork from the states needed for these appointments, but please pray that our move to Haiti will be seen as a positive thing and that no major changes will be asked of us in our paperwork that would lengthen the process further. Most of the changes we need to make are requirements on the U.S. side of the adoption process (USCIS), but we will be asked in Haitian court if there are any recent changes to our job and residence. Please pray for wisdom in answering questions and for gracious court officials in these proceedings that are favorable of adoptions and who will be able to see how much we love our girls and that we can provide for them.

Now we wait some more. Sigh. We are here in Haiti! If only our girls were with us here in Haiti! Please pray that will become a reality for us soon! We haven't seen them yet and they don't know we are moving here...just that we are coming! We have been waiting to visit them on a day when we can spend more time (Lord willing that will be on Sat. Sept. 10th) and not confuse them by having to leave them after only a few hours. We want the boys to have plenty of time the first day they meet their sisters and we want to be able to have time to talk to our orphanage director about our next steps in the process. Please pray for all this to happen soon and that it will all go really well! Our hearts are full of anticipation! Ethan said, "I am meeting all these new people and I like them alot...but all I really want is to go meet my sisters!" Evan said the prayer last night at the dinner table. I choked back tears as he prayed, "And please help us to find our girls so we can see them". I guess he thinks we don't know where they are since we haven't gone to see them yet. This whole situation is very confusing to all of us. It is even more confusing to the people that are just now meeting us in Haiti and can't figure out why we just don't go get the girls. It is complicated. That's about all we are able to share. And they usually understand because on some level they understand Haiti. At least that Haiti is complicated. But we love Haiti! And we are loving living in Haiti!
Ethan and Evan (us and our stuff) finally arrive in Haiti!


Urgent need and prayer request! Once we exited IBESR (last week) we were notified that the 2nd half of our adoption fee (final payment) is now due. Our orphanage director must have the money in order for our adoptions to progress to the next stage. There are several fees he has to pay in order for the paperwork (done by the lawyer) to be completed for us to go to our court appointments and for the final stages of the adoption process. We owe $6,000 at this time. We have requested and received the grant dispursement letter for our $5,000 Abba Fund grant. Praise the Lord for this provision! We recently sent another sum of $1,400 for the final remaining "care fees" for our girls (which we owed for up to one year while in the adoption process and we were a few months late in getting those sent). We now have $28 in our adoption fund and with our move (and support needed for our family in Haiti) we are not able to come up with the remaining $1,000 on our own. We do have more funds raised through the 2011 Chosen Marathon for Adoption (needed to cover passport, visas, and immigration fees at the end of the process), but we will not be able to receive this money until November at the earliest. If God leads you to help with this needed expense of $1,000 (should be the last!), please donate to our Paypal on this blog (which deposits into our separate adoption fund account) or you can send a check to our home address at 2035 Club Crossing, New Braunfels, TX 78130 (which we currently have a forwarding address on that will be sent to us in Haiti).

Thank you so much for your continued prayers for our family! Updates and pics from our move to Haiti are posted at: reamteaminternational.blogspot.com.



Fundraiser Finale!

Our "Adoption Rocks" Girls...Help bring them home with these final fundraisers!


We are soon on our way to Haiti and have some sweet fundraising items we need to sell before we leave! We still need to come up with $720 for our I-600 fee, $800 ($400 per child) for visa fees, and $100 ($50 per child) for IBESR fee at the end of the adoption process. We recently found out about the $720 and that the $400 was "per child". We paid our I-600 fee at the very beginning of the adoption process before submitting our paperwork in Haiti, but because our girls are not biological siblings we are now told that we will be required to pay an additional fee (this is a U.S. paperwork fee) for the additional child being adopted that is not "from the same family". Same story for the additional visa fee. 


Please check out our new fundraising items that we hope will help raise a portion of these adoption expenses. We are excited about them and we hope you are too! If you would like to purchase one or more of the following then please send me an e-mail with your order and address to eeream@hotmail.com. 


Our biggest fundraiser going on right now is the Chosen Marathon for Adoption. This amazing event is happening October 29th, 2011 in our hometown of New Braunfels, TX. We have many friends and family members signed up to run on our marathon team! You can support our team "Chosen and Much Loved" and help us raise money for our adoptions by giving a tax deductible donation through the marathon website or by mail. Go to marathonforadoption.com and click on "Donate" then "Team" and follow the instructions. 
And here are our newest fun-raiser items!

$10 for "Beauty for Ashes" 8x10 print (multiples available)

Hiking up a steep hill in Haiti I came upon this rubble from the Jan.12, 2010 earthquake and noticed that flowers were blooming in the midst of the destruction.  The following verse came to mind as I gazed upon this sight.

"To give them beauty for ashes,
The oil of joy for mourning,
The garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness;
That they may be called trees of righteousness,
The planting of the Lord, that He may be glorified."
Isaiah 61:3

This photo is a physical reminder that beauty can come from these ashes, and this beauty from the ashes was the catalyst for the flowers of Haiti photos also included in the print and below. These examples are photos I took of the actual print and are clearer and prettier in real life. 
$10 for "Flowers of Haiti" 8x10 print (multiples available)

$20 each or $50 for all three sets of Megan's Creations
(one of a kind handmade baby booties and hats)

My sweet friend Megan wanted to do something to help raise funds to bring our girls home. She didn't have money to give but donated her precious time and talents in making these beautiful sets for baby by hand.
These would make great baby shower gifts for a baby girl. Thank you Megan!
Megan's Creations front view
 
$40 for these 4 bags of Just Love Coffee (Ground)
This is our awesome fundraiser coffee which sells for $12.95 per bag + $5 shipping. We won a fundraising contest and received coffee in abundance. While I would love to hoard it all for myself, it is not pracical to take this much coffee to Haiti in our limited luggage space...especially when coffee is one thing that I love in Haiti! So we are sharing our abundance at a discounted rate for our coffee loving friends in the States! If you are one of our regular coffee customers or have always wanted to try it but thought the price was too high, this is a great way to get some great coffee!

$40 for these 4 bags of Just Love Coffee (Whole Bean)



Missing There, Missing Here

It is hard to put into words all that the Ream family has been up to lately. I suppose if I had to sum up how I feel about all that we have been up to I would say that my heart is on a daily rollercoaster between missing there (Haiti) and missing here (the good ole USA). I'm missing there bad. I miss Haiti. I miss my girls. Understatement. I ache for my girls. I ache for the feel of their hair, for the sound of rattling beads as we walk hand in hand, for the touch of those beads on my arm as I watch them sleep in the early hours of the morning. I miss Esmée's laugh, Marguerite's bounce and sway as she enters the room, dressing them, feeding them, teaching them, praying with them, just being together. I am seeing a pattern in these in between times. About a week after I leave them I hit rock bottom. The ache feels close to a death. While we know we will see them again one day, we don't know when that day will be...and the missing is overwhelming. I wait for time. Time eventually overpowers the ache. But the ache doesn't go away. Ever. It is always there, every hour of every day. There. Here. No matter how far apart we are, my girls are never far away from me. A few months go by. Time helps, then time backfires. The overpowering ache begins to build again. This is because there was not a death. The ones I miss and long for are very much alive. We keep hope alive...oh so alive for the day we will be together again. The girls always ask when we first arrive, "When you come back?" instead of "When are you leaving?" They survive on hope. But "hope deferred makes the heart sick..."(Prov. 13:12). It has been 4 months since we left our girls last, and my heart is in the"sick" stage. 3 months in between visits is about the max before the unquenchable ache overpowers. It was 3 months in between my first and second visits. It was six months between my 2nd and 3rd visits. Then 3 months between my 3rd and 4th, and now we are looking at 6 months elapsing between the next....which Lord willing will be the last. You have no idea how excited I am about that. We haven't told the girls we are moving to Haiti. I hope no one else has spilled the beans. They made us promise last time that we would bring their brothers the next time we come, so we have sent them word that we are coming in August with their brothers...but now we won't get there until Sept. making this another awful 6 month wait. Hope deferred for another month. I am holding on to hope for the day in September when the girls look up at us and ask, "When you come back?" and we say, "This time we are not leaving Haiti until you can come with us!" Until that day I will be missing there, but cling to the rest of that verse which says..."but longing fulfilled is a tree of life". Ready to eat me some fruit from that tree! 


In the meantime of missing, we have been been in the trenches of spiritual warefare. We are grasping for the tree of life, but our baskets are coming up empty. We know that God has called us to move to Haiti. We know that He has called us to pursue these adoptions. We know that He will continue to provide and that His will shall be accomplished. We are not doubting these things, but the Deceiver has sure been busy trying to knock us off our feet. The other day I got a bitter taste of how Job must have felt when he received one super bad news report after another. While the first messenger was still speaking to him a second came and gave him more bad news, then a third and fourth with more of the same. Nothing but bad news with no light at the end of the tunnel...such has been our week. We knew this would come. I won't go into details on this post (the list is too long and posting publicly for all the world to see isn't a good idea anyways) but I would like to ask for much prayer at this time. The enemy does not want us to move to Haiti. The enemy is clinging to our girls and will do everything in his perverted power to keep them in their orphans night. We know who wins this battle. He has already overcome. He told us that "in the world we will have tribulation". We do not despair. And although it is hard to "be of good cheer" right now, we are comforted that the Victor in this battle has already been decided. And we are on the winning side. Darkness has already been overcome by the Light of the world. Our eyes are fixed on that Light...even in the midst of the darkness...because we know the Truth. "For whatever is born of God overcomes the world..." (1John 5:4). "Whoever believes that Jesus is the Christ is born of God..." (1 John 5:1). WE BELIEVE! "And this is the victory that has overcome the world--our faith. Who is he who overcomes the world, but he who believes that Jesus is the Son of God?" (1 John 5:5). "We know that we are of God, and the whole world lies under the sway of the wicked one. And we know that the Son of God has come and has given us an understanding, that we may know Him who is true; and we are in Him who is true, in His Son Jesus Christ. This is the true God and eternal life." (1 John 5:19-20). We know that one day we will eat of that fruit! "To him who overcomes I will give to eat from the tree of life, which is in the midst of the Paradise of God" (Revelation 2:7).

Missing here is a new phenomenon to have to balance. It is not one of the punch in the gut, feeling like Job things, but it is a bittersweet addition. I suppose being in the sick stage of missing there helps lessen the ache of already missing here. These are uncharted waters. I feel like one day soon (perhaps the day we get on the plane) the tide of missing here emotions that is slowly closing in will sweep me away. I am not there yet. But I know it is coming. I am wondering how severely we will miss the temporal things. We have been out of our house for 2 weeks now. This has been hard (mainly physically and relationally...is moving ever easy?) but this is a really good thing for our transition time...removal from our stuff...from our pet...from our previous daily routine...from a good chunk our lives as we knew them.  But it isn't those things that I am already missing about here. I am already missing the sound Erin humming a tune over the kitchen sink, hearing Jesse say, "It's all good" for the 15th time in a day, Emilee's laugh, Eleisha's face of a million expressions, Lala's chubby thighs, Ellie's big brown eyes, watching Ba (Dad) playing with my boys, everything about my Musy (Mom), my brother Jon filling up a room with his presence, Mema and Papa visits, spilling my guts to Steph over coffee or whenever we can steal some time, my joy Kelli Hine, Ben Ritche at my table saying "All Jesus". And those were just my missings of the last 10 minutes. A dozen more dear ones will cross my thoughts and put an ache in my heart in the next 10. Missing here makes it difficult for me to get through the church service without a watershed. Makes it dificult to see Jodie Cowan pop her head out of the children's room and rush over for a hug that I know will be one of our last for awhile. Makes it difficult to peek into the Sunday School room and watch Evan and his sweetie Emilee Easley playing together for maybe the last time for a long time. Makes it hard to hug Emilee's mom, my dear friend Ariana.  Makes it hard to hear about the new youth pastor interviews and know that soon someone else will be teaching the kids we love so dearly...just missing that it won't be us. Missing here isn't bad. It just means that we have been blessed. Blessed by love. Love that comes from Him who first loved us. This love is eternal. This missing is temporary. Someday we will all be together again. We will eat of the fruit together. Perhaps longing for that is what I am really missing. Missing Heaven. 


"Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. 
For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord."
Romans 8:37-39

Though it tarries...

So it's been a long time since we have posted an update on our adoption progress. This is because it has been a LONG time since we have heard anything about our adoption progress. We have been in IBESR (the system in Haii that the paperwork has to go through) since mid April.  We were encouraged when 6 of our girls friends being adopted from their orphanage by friends in our area came out of IBESR in late May. All of the families adopting these kids submitted their dossiers the same day as us but entered IBESR 1-2 months before we did. There are others that entered IBESR before us that have not come through yet, and so far it seems the average timeline in IBESR is 3-5 months. We know some that have come through in a month and others that have been in for nearly 6 months now. We have been told repeatedly that it pretty much just depends on the person processing the paperwork...whether or not they care about the piles representing persons sitting on their desk. We learned that there is a new IBESR director and that anyone who had not come out before the new director took office should expect to experience delays. Delays. Let me say that again. Delays. This word used to infuriate me. I mean we are talking about orphans in often inhumane conditions...waiting. Waiting while their families that could provide for them wait to be able to do so because of red tape. Still not feeling any reaction. DELAYS. Perhaps making it bigger will do the trick. Uh, nope. Am I just numb to this word by this point, or is it because God has been teaching me that delays...even the ones that seem anything but good...the gut wrenching ones that make me scream WHY?, Lord WHY?...are His mercies in disguise?

But what if this process had been easy? Not that we have ever heard of ANY adoption from Haiti being described as easy. Adoptions from Haiti typically take between 2-3 years. This is the norm...sadly. We knew this when we submitted our dossier after Haiti closed humanitarian parole in April of 2010. We were hoping this would not be the case post-quake, but we knew it could be. We do not know of a single child that has come out on a traditional international adoption (what we are doing) from Haiti since the earthquake. We have watched kids come through humanitarian parole, student visas, and medical visas...but not adoptions....YET! While I may not be having a reaction to the word "delay", I do struggle with internal (sometimes external) reactions to others (who know didly squat about Haitian adoptions) who make comments and conclusions about why it is taking so long. I don't mind anyone asking. I don't mind explaining. I don't get my feelings hurt easily. But there isn't a week that goes by that someone (usually with a doubtful, you are ignorant to keep fighting for this adoption look) says, "Do you actually think they will ever come home?" Faking a smile I say, "Yes", while cringing inside at their poor word choices especially times like when we are at the airport welcoming the upteenth child coming home (not from Haiti) to families that started their process a year after us. Adoption is hard nomatter what the circumstances, country, or wait time. We get enough unlovely comments about the fact that we are adopting older children..out of birth order...that are black, that we are buying our children, that we are moving to a hopeless country that will never climb out of the hell it is in, that we are crazy to do so. I've never said we aren't crazy. I think you have to be at least a little crazy to do these things...or just crazy about following the Lord in whatever He leads you to do and wherever He leads you to go nomatter what it may cost. It is sad how few Christians actually get that. They say they believe it. But they don't get it. I'm not saying we get it fully, or obey fully, or trust fully. We don't. But I wish that there was more compassion and encouragement going around the body of believers in what the Lord calls us to do or calls us to endure. Let me put it this way. If your friend or family member is struggling through the wait of unemployment or an illness that doesn't have an end in sight, do you say, "Do you actually think he will ever find a job?....Do you actually think they will ever get better?" Maybe they will. Maybe they won't. Only God knows tomorrow. But seriously people. Think before you speak. Note to self to do the same. How bout instead of asking "why?", instead of asking if they will ever come home, if they will ever learn to read, if we will ever get through the many"issues"...what if you just prayed for this precious little girl? Pray what is written on the sign she holds that "He will cleanse their hearts. He will make them whole". Only God can do that. We need your prayers. We need your compassion in the hard times.


Many times when we ask "why?" we don't get answers. But God has been gracious in giving us a glimpse of the why and how this has been a mercy in disguise in many ways. If we had been able to use an agency for our adoptions, if things were not so complicated, if we had not had to do so much research on our own for our adoptions for so many months, there is no way we would have the connections and dear friends in Haiti that we do now. And it is through these connections and friends  that the Lord has opened our hearts, enabled, and provided for us to move to Haiti. It is a mercy that we have had the time we have had to prepare to bring orphans into our family. Knowing what we know now about our girls past, personalities, and the issues we will surely face would have been much much harder to face if they had come to us quickly in the way we originally thought they would. Many of these issues of great concern that I have prayed over and over in the past 18 months will be drastically reduced by the fact that our girls will be able to transition to our family in their own culture. God knew all this. All those months of asking why. God knew. He knows. We are blessed when we see these glimpses of His glory. When a tiny piece of our brain comprehends that He really is working together all things for good.

This morning I was sitting on the porch of my sister's country home reading Habakkuk. I didn't set out to to sit on that lovely porch in the cool morning breeze with Habakkuk in my mind, but I kept thinking about the word "delay" and set out to seek God's word on the subject. So I looked up the word "delay" and couldn't find it in the back of my Bible, but found the word"tarry" instead. I think I like tarry better than delay anyways. I am thinking Tarry should be the name of a future child. You can talk me out of that later. Back to Habakkuk...which we won't be naming a future child after. I stopped here for awhile.

"Though it tarries, wait for it;
Because it will surely come, 
It will not tarry."
Habakkuk 2:4

Is anyone else puzzled by this verse? First it says "though it tarries...". Then it says "It will not tarry."in the same sentence. Huh? Seems like a contradition to me. I sought the big Bible scholar expert notes to see if they had a hunch as to what this is really saying. Summarizing what I found...God knows His plan and the outworking of all things in accordance with His purposes. While awaiting the fulfillment that will surely come, we must rest in the fact that the fulfillment lies in God Himself. It will not take any longer than God has planned. Our plans have changed. God's have not. We don't always understand, but we know that He understands it all. Thank you Lord for helping us to trust you while waiting. Thank you for giving us glimpses of Your plans for us and how You truly have been working all these things together for our good and for the fulfillment of Your glory. Thank you for Your Word that says, 

"For My thoughts are not your thoughts,
Nor are your ways My ways, says the Lord.
For as the heavens are higher than the earth,
So are My ways higher than your ways, 
And My thoughts than your thoughts."
Isaiah 55:8-9

CHOSEN MARATHON FOR ADOPTION fundraiser is how we pray we will raise the remainder of our final adoption expenses! If you are interested in running/walking it is VERY IMPORTANT that you REGISTER BY THE END OF THE DAY ON JUNE 30TH! Choose "Chosen and Much Loved" Team!

Dear Friends and Family,


Please read Betsy's e-mail below if you have ever wanted to support us in bringing our Haiti girls to their forever home...now is the time! We need one more push to bring in the finances necessary to make this a reality and we believe the Chosen Marathon for Adoption is our best chance at bringing in the rest of our funds. It is very difficult to even think about fundraising for our adoptions at this time while we are trying to raise support to move to Haiti...and are in the process of moving to Haiti (we have to be out of our house this Sat)! Betsy has graciously put out a plea on our behalf because she understands the needs and because she knows and loves our girls in Haiti. We have an excellent chance at winning the contest that will provide an additional $1,000 if we can get friends and family to register for the marathon by June 30th (more on that below). Just wanted to add that even if you have never run, have never wanted to run, and have absolutely no intention of running, or even if you live in another state, you can still register for the marathon (think of it as a donation) and we will still receive the funds for your runner registration and your registration could help us win an extra $1,000 toward our adoptions! But we do highly encourage you to consider participating in the Chosen Marathon.  Eric and I both did the Galloway program (walk/run) in the Chosen half marathon last Oct. Eric did this with an ankle injury and I did not start training until August for the event in October. I'm not recommending that, but just saying that if we can do it, you can do it! The marathon will take place in our New Braunfels, TX, and runs along the beautiful River Road.  If you want to come from out of town and need a place to stay and people to run/walk with we can hook you up! It is an unforgettable experience that has blessed and encouraged us tremendously. Please help us pass the word and get as many recruits as we can for our team before the June 30th contest deadline. If you are reading this and missed the contest deadline, you can still join our team anytime before the event date and this will help us as well!

Please sign up for the marathon by Thursday June 30th to help us and call me if you have any questions! 214-471-2526

Until they are home,
Elisabeth

Click to register and choose "Chosen and Much Loved" as the team
Hi.  My name is Betsy.  In December I was blessed to share a room in Haiti at the orphanage with your sweet Elisabeth.  In March, I got to travel back with her and be there with Eric and their high school team as well.(And then found myself back on a plane to Haiti 4 short weeks later.  But that's a whole nother story.)
 
So.......I love kids.  Love loving orphans.  Love Elisabeth and her family. AND happen to also LOVE long distance/endurance events.  
 
I write this letter with one single OPPORTUNITY for you and me to contribute in all these things.  (That I Love.)
 
It's the Marathon for Adoption.  Running with a purpose.  Chosen Marathon.  October 29, 2011 New Braunfels.
 
How can you help?  
Sign up to be on CHOSEN AND MUCH LOVED TEAM !!  www.marathonforadoption.com  
 
*ALL REGISTRATIONS RECEIVED BY JUNE 30TH - this Thursday - COULD HELP THE REAM'S WIN AN ADDITIONAL $1000 TOWARDS THEIR ADOPTIONS IF THEIR TEAM HAS THE MOST RUNNERS REGISTERED WITHIN THE TWO WEEK WINDOW OF THE CONTEST.
 
Never done a marathon or half marathon?  This is your perfect opportunity.  The race is at the end of October - with cool temperatures. You have exactly 4 months to train from now until race day.  There are many on-line free training programs for anyone desiring extra coaching.  One I recommend to new runners or runners that have been injured or injure easily..... is the Gallaway program.  Jeff Galloway invented and teaches it.  It involves running and walking.  One example might be that you run 10 minutes, than walk 2 minutes.  And you would do that the entire race.  And I have known people to qualify for the Boston Marathon using this method.  Recovery time is cut in half as well.
 
I have done 3 marathons.  One being during an Ironman triathlon I completed a few years ago. Didn't 'feel' adequately trained for any of them - but finished each one with relative ease, wondering why I had waited so long to try (do) something so fun!
 
I do not know that I can even run one mile currently. My thoughts ...... it will be great discipline to work hard with purpose ..... and when the training is hurting - what a great time to remember and pray for Elita and Esmee.  
 
So many great reasons to sign-up!  And don't forget - SIGN UP TODAY - BECAUSE WE WANT THE REAM'S TO WIN THIS CONTEST AND RECEIVE THE ADDITIONAL $1,000.  (They recently learned they still need to raise $3000, largely because they are adopting non-siblings and so the U.S. immigration and visa fees will be double.)
 
(Please note too - Elisabeth, has encouraged their church friends to all register and run on the 'church' team to help encourage more families both to adopt, and in their adoptions.)  SO THEY NEED 
YOUR SUPPORT for this event!
*****PLEASE NOTE:  If you are unsure at this time of being able to make this October 29th event - you can still register today, and be guaranteed that 100% of your registration fee will go straight to the girls' final adoption fees (even if you are unable to make it to the event.)
 
Be sure and select "CHOSEN AND MUCH LOVED" for your team name when you register.
 
Hope to meet you at the race!
 
Blessings -
 
Betsy Hurley  

IF and THEN

I find myself saying the words "if" and "then" A LOT lately. IF only we had a little more time, THEN perhaps we would have our new website up and ready to share about what we will be doing in Haiti (or what we think we will be doing...We know enough about Haiti to know that we should expect the unexpected). IF you happen to venture into my personal space or enter my horridly disheveled house in the past week, THEN you might have heard me say something like this,
"We are moving to Haiti sometime in August (still waiting on someone in Haiti to tell us exactly when) before school starts in August because we are going to be working with a school in Haiti. Well, Eric is." It is at this point that I usually get the question, "Oh and what will you be doing?" Hmmm...let me think. Probably crying A LOT (perhaps if I expect this then the unexpected will happen and I will find that living in a 3rd world country...and doing ANYTHING in that country is a piece of cake...which I will be eating along with my bonbons frequently :). Joking aside, there really are massive God sized plans swirling around in my head constantly dreaming of what I (we) hope to be doing in Haiti (crying not on the list). But if I have learned anything this year it is that "We can make our plans, but the LORD determines our steps" Proverbs 16:9.

The biggest, IF's and THEN's come when trying to plan our Haiti girls into our Haiti move equation. Perhaps the term "equation" is inappropriate ridiculous when discussing anything related to Haiti...especially pertaining to adoptions. The first two definitions listed for "equation" are "the act of equating or making equal" and "equally balanced state; equilibrium". I can't think of anything equal or balanced about our journey to Haiti so far or Haiti in general for that matter...except that something about living in this fallen, broken world feels more balanced to me when I am there among the brokenness.

Back to the plan that usually goes something like this, "IF the girls are permitted to live with us (while still in the adoption process ) THEN I will either be home schooling them (or perhaps just one of them) or they will attend school along with our boys where Eric will also be teaching."
"IF the girls are not permitted to live with us (while still in the adoption process) THEN we will be visiting them at their orphanage often (which is about 20 minutes from where we will be living/working/schooling) and IF it is ok with their orphanage director, THEN we plan to have the girls visit us often as well."
"IF the girls adoptions are completed before Christmas break (and IF we have the money for plane tickets), THEN we will probably come back for the holidays (when school is out) to visit family and friends and tend to necessary adoption and tax paperwork stateside."
"IF they are not adopted before Christmas, and IF the adoptions are completed sometime before school lets out for summer break, THEN we will probably return with the girls to the states for the summer months to visit, fundraise, decide at this time what we should do with our TX house and possessions that didn't join us in Haiti, and IF it is God's plan THEN Eric (and possibly the rest of the fam) will be traveling to other countries (other than Haiti and the U.S.) to do the work of the ministry there.

Lord, IF you would just come back today, THEN everything would be ok as it should be. No more waiting, no more tears, no more wondering and futile planning of the future that only you know anyways. But IF we wake up in the morning and again start making plans, THEN we are trusting in your promise that you will direct our steps...each and every one! For "IF we are faithless, THEN he remains faithful" 2 Tim. 2:13... "for we walk by faith, not by sight" 2 Cor. 5:7.

"Senyè,
Sèvitè w' la pa konnen gosh ak dwat.
Menm kounye a mwen pa konnen nan ki lès nan men ou yo mwen ye.
Ke m' nan men gosh la ou nan dwat la, sa pa fè anyen.
Mwen nan men pa w'.
Sa sifi."

That's my favorite Haitian prayer that says,

"Lord,
Your servant doesn't know left from right.
Even now I don't know which one of your hands I am in.
Whether I am in the left or the right, it doesn't matter.
I am in Your hands.
That's enough."

"No Reservations"

Dear Haiti,
How did I come to love you so? How is it that when I think of home that you are always there? I have been to other poverty stricken places...none quite like you, but I've never wanted to stay. I was just thankful for the "experience" and that I didn't have to live out my existence in those kind of conditions. But you I have never wanted to leave. Could it be that I just don't want to leave my girls? I've asked myself that question a million times it seems. Others have asked it too. So on my last trip I tried spending time with you apart from my girls. I was checking you out. I was hoping that you would answer that question for me. You did. I only fell in love with you more. I have experienced your ugly side. I have experienced your glories. I don't love everything about you. Truthfully, the list of things I hate about you would surely top the list of things I love about you. But your fight for resilience against my hate list makes me love you even more. I know that leaving you means leaving my girls, and in all honesty I know my love for you has grown along with my love for them. They are tragedy, beauty, brokenness, resilience. They are Haiti. They are the catalyst that brought me to you. They are family. You are family. You are home. We thought we would bring Haiti home. But now we are going home to Haiti.
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May 26th, 2011. The ticking clock glares 1:00 am...the typical time (usually the only time) Eric and I sort through the bigger decisions in our personal lives. I stare at the clock wishing God would hold the sun in place for at least another month. Eric breaks the silence with the question, "So do you have any reservations about moving to Haiti?" My first thought was "Nope!...Just wish everything was already done and we were already there". But I paused for awhile to make sure I was answering truthfully. What then came out was a list of fears...fears concerning both the unknown and expected lifestyle changes that were sure to come, how we and our children will cope with these, if and how this will affect our adoption process, and the biggest elephant in the room...MONEY. After voicing some of my fears, I realized that none of these things were actually reasons I had for not moving to Haiti. They were all things I fully expected to encounter as we prepare to move and after we do move to Haiti...God has already confirmed the decision in my heart and in that decision I have no reservations. I then asked Eric the same question. He said, "I have no reservations that this is what God wants us to do." The how of all that is still in the works...but God has been moving mountains to get us to this point and we know He isn't going to abandon us now!
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We have been discussing the possibility of moving to Haiti openly with our boys for several months now. We have been excited to see how God has been preparing their hearts as well. Two weeks ago Ethan caught me saying, "When we move to Haiti..." He stopped me before I could scold him for whatever he was in the midst of saying (probably asking for some big toy that I knew we wouldn't be taking to Haiti), and asked, "So we are definitely going?" I could have just said, "Yes. And your little world is about to be rocked!" I opted for a teachable moment instead saying, "Let's think this through together. Has our family ever prayed that if God wants us to move to another country that He will show us where that is and open doors for us to move there?" Both boys answered, "Yes". "Do you think God has been showing us Haiti?" Boys, "Yes"! "And If God has provided renters for our house here, a job for Daddy in Haiti, a house for us in Haiti, cars for us to drive in Haiti, and even some money for us to get to Haiti, do you think that maybe God's plan involves us moving to Haiti?" "Ethan responds, "God did all that? Well I guess we have to go then"! Evan asks, "Will there be toys in Haiti?" I so wanted a more spiritual response from them, but will take willingness to go as a positive! Shortly after this conversation with the boys the radio played,

Where You go, I'll go
Where You stay, I'll stay
When You move, I'll move
I will follow You
Who You love, I'll love
How You serve I'll serve
If this life I lose, I will follow...

We all love this song, but we admit that these words are easier to sing than obey. Lord, continue to make our hearts desire to follow you and serve you wherever you desire to move us! Thank you for opening doors for us! We ask that you give us the courage to walk through them. We ask for you to bring others to join us in our journey through support and provide for the finances needed in whatever way You see fit. We ask that you continue to prepare our hearts and the hearts of those you would have us serve and serve alongside in Haiti...and enable us to serve like You for Your glory!
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Dear Friends,
We know you might have a lot of questions. We still have a lot of questions too. But we now have enough answers to finally be able to announce that...
THE REAM FAMILY IS MOVING TO HAITI! Did we mention this is happening in August?...as in the next two months...Lord willing! We are in the process of setting up a new site where we will post more information about our move to Haiti and what we will be doing when we get there. We will continue to post adoption updates on this blog. We want to be clear that our adoptions are not the reason we are moving to Haiti. It isn't exactly the norm to move to the country you are adopting from...but you didn't think we were normal did you? We are definitely excited we will be closer to to our girls while we wait for our adoptions to be completed, but we do not have any knowlege that our move to Haiti will expedite the process in any way. While our adoptions are the reason Haiti originally became a focus for us, there have been many other reasons through many other people the Lord has presented to us in the past year that have confirmed that He is calling us to Haiti! We are excited to be called, and we are excited to go! But boy do we need a ton of prayer to get us there...and even more after we get there! Moving to a 3rd (recently heard Haiti has been classified as a 4th) world country in the heat of August with two young boys and no air conditioning isn't going to earn glamour points. If I dwell on that thought for more than a few seconds while sitting in my air conditioned home on my comfy couch with a working internet connection, I quickly begin to rethink that "no reservations" stuff. But...


"Then I heard the voice of the Lord saying, Whom shall I send? And who will go for us? And I said, Here I am. Send me!” -Isaiah 6:8 

Can a scripture verse be overused? Misused, yes. Overused, no! So there it is. I was six years old when I first knew God wanted me to be a missionary. I was also 6 years old when I said, "No way...You've got yourself the wrong gal for that job". I've said "no" too many times since, but God didn't give up on me (or answering Eric's prayers to go to the mission field)! This time around, God didn't have to ask, "Who will go?" I was already jumping up and down and begging like crazy, "Here I am! Right here Lord! I'll go! I'm ready now! Please send me! Send us! Please oh please!" God often has funny ways of bringing about His will in our lives. I'm sure there will be days when I won't think it is funny and may curse God (or at least vent on the blog) for giving me my way...or making me want His way. Either way, God's will be done...It will!...and we have no reservations about that!

Adoptions are moving!

We got good news today! And just when I was at the end of my rope (good thing I didn't post earlier today)! This is not news specifically on our adoptions, but this news does mean that good news on our adoptions is in the near future! Here is the part of the report we received today (the good news part).


"It looks like generally things continue to move along well as more families move into and out of IBESR’s. A little interesting information:
Of those turning in their dossiers between April and Dec 31, 2010, 17 are in or through IBESR's (11 are presently in IBESR’s and 6  are out of IBESR’s) and 8 are still working toward IBESR’s. "

And right before we received this message we heard from one of our friends that they are now in IBESR! Which means there are actually 19 kids in or through IBESR and 6 kids whose paperwork is working and waiting to be approved into IBESR. Wondering who these kids are? Go to our "Found" link to see their pics...and please, please pray for them too! 
So where does this leave us? We submitted our dossier May 15th, 2010. Ours is one of the "11 presently in IBESR". Wondering what IBESR is? IBESR stands for " Institut du Bien-Etre Social et Recherches " in French. In English, this means the Institute of Social Well-Being and Research.

What does IBESR do for our adoptions? 
IBESR is the Haitian Social Services. They have social workers that study our dossier to see whether we meet their requirements to adopt a child. They also judge whether your proposed child is a good match for your family. Once the social worker approves, then IBESR gives a Certificate of Authorization telling the courts that they have approved you to adopt your Haitian child. This is a long process and there are many steps (see previous post or our Haiti's Adoption Process link at the top of our blog...which shoud be titled "Haiti's Forever and Painfully Long Adoption Process"). Ok it's late and I promised myself (and the Lord) that I would relish in this encouragement and not revert to my down in the dumps state I was in to prior to receiving this report.  Just want to publicly share our excitement that some of our friends (and our girls friends) are through IBESR! Whohoo! Adoptions are moving! And we could be next!

Picture taken March 16th, 2011 the night before we were to leave early the next morning. Girls were in full swing drama mode blowing kisses and waving goodbye to their friends pretending they were going home with us. They carried on all the way through the top floor, down the stairs, through the 2nd story, and ended in their own sleeping quarters where they quietly stashed this suitcase we left with them to hold all their shared earthly belongings. We love how they often throw in some humor to ease the pain before we have to leave them again. This was one of those times, and they did a very good job at making us laugh. Everyone else seemed totally confused. Our girls are good actresses, but even more than that they are the bravest souls we know.
How we long for the day that this won't be an act, but the real deal. Home. One day.

Happy Birthday Esmée Noel...You are truly Much Loved!

Our precious Esmée,

Today is May 16th, 2011. Today is the day we are celebrating your birthday! We realize there is only a 1 in 365 chance that this is truly the day you were born, but also realize there are some things we just have to wait to find out until we all get to our forever home. Your real birth day is just one of many things we don't get to know and understand this side of Heaven, but we have peace through our all knowing God that surpasses all understanding.

We are celebrating the day you were born on May 16th for many reasons. One reason is that this is the day that is listed on your paperwork. Most likely you were born in the rural countryside without a nearby hospital, so there is not an official record of your birth. However, your orphanage must have documents proving you exist. We are so thankful for your beautiful existence sweet girl! The paperwork says that you are turning 12 years old today, though it is also unlikely that is actually your age. When I first held you in my arms last April and discussed your case with the orphanage director, I asked him what age he was going to put on your paperwork? He asked me, "What age would you like her to be?" After I got over the shock of this question, the answer that finally came out was "8"..."please make her 8 years old." I came up with this age for a few reasons. One being that it was at that time April of 2010 and I didn't want you to be turning 9 in May, which would now make you 10. Last April you weighed only 38 pounds and were smaller than my then 5 year old Ethan. Your had never been to school and only knew your A, B, C's. You couldn't tell me your birthday, but said you were "9". I figured you could just be nine for a really long time. I asked the director if there was something significant about the date May 16th. He shook his head yes saying, "I do believe this date holds some significance"...and so it does. I later asked David Birdy who knew about how you came to the orphanage and a little of your background, how old he thinks you really are? He asked me what date was listed as your birthday, and I told him "May 16th, 1999". He began to laugh. I asked him why he was laughing and he said, "May 16th is my birthday!". I thought, "oh how sweet that Esmée shares her birthday with David Birdy who shares part of her story"...but couldn't quite figure out why this was so funny. David then proceeded to tell me that he was helping out at your orphanage after the earthquake and was entering the children's data into computer files. When he came to Belinda Noel he knew your story well enough to know that there was no way to know your real birthday. He didn't know what to enter into the computer, so he just entered his own birthday. This is the story behind why May 16th was chosen as the day to celebrate your birth, but there are also other special reasons why we want to celebrate it today!

Esmée's Profile Pic
I remember staring at the first picture we received of your sweet face. I gazed into your paper eyes and made a connection that I couldn't shake. My heart told me from that moment on that you were my daughter. When I held you and connected with your real life eyes a few months later, I knew my heart had been right. May 16th is special because that is the date we saw printed next to the face that I looked at hundreds of times before I saw you in person...before I took hundreds of other pictures to hold until we would hold you again.

Our family was excited that your profile listed May 16th as your birthday. February (Elita Marguerite's b-day month) and May are the two biggest birthday months celebrated in our family and extended family. We believed this was yet another confirmation showing us you and Marguerite were meant to be in our family.

May 16th is also very special because it is the day that our friends traveling to Haiti delivered our dossiers containing our official adoption paperwork. One year ago today we knew our adoptions would officially be able to begin. One year ago today we knew we had kept our promise to you to do everything we could do to bring you home.

We are celebrating you today Esmée because we believe that one day soon we will bring you home and you will officially become our daughter. You know we call you Esmée because in those first weeks of staring at your paper face we didn't know your name, but oh how we loved you! The profile picture said "Belinda Noel" next to your face, but we were told right away that this was not your name. We were later told your name is Delenda, and have been given other names (Melinda, Berlinda) as well. We know there is no way to know if Delenda is the name your birth parents gave you just as we don't know your age or the real date your mother gave birth to you. We think that your birth father's last name is "Noel", and we want you to keep this name too. We called you Esmée because it means "Much Loved" and because you are much loved. God's word tells us that while we only "know in part...when the fullness of time comes, what is in part will disappear. Now we know in part; but then we shall know fully, even as we are fully known"(from 1 Corinthians 13:9,12). In light of eternity, it doesn't matter if we know your real name or the day you were born. What really matters is that your Heavenly Father gave you precious life, and you are "fully known" and much loved by Him. We are so blessed to even know you "in part"...and we love all the parts we do know about you. Our favorite part is that we know you love Jesus, and that your faith and hope in Him have carried you this far. There was a time this past year that it seemed our Lord wanted you home with Him even before you come home to us.
Esmée when she was deathly sick Oct./Nov. 2010
We are thankful that He has granted us more time with you, and we cherish each day of your life. Happy 9th (or it could be your 10th, 11th, or even 12th) birthday! Someday we will live together in our forever home where age and time will fade away and all that matters is that we are His...that He loved us so much that He sent His Son...that He is preparing our forever home even now. But for now "these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love"(1 Cor. 13:13). This love "always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres....and never fails" (13:7,8). We pray this love over you today, and every day our much loved girl!
Healthy and very happy Esmée in March 2011

Keeping our focus...a great lesson from Orphan's Matchbox


Written By: Heidi Weimer (WeHaveRoom.org)

While I have always had a burning passion for social justice (yes, I was “that” kid way back in the 5th grade), it wasn’t until the last four years—when the repercussions of social injustice were up close and personal in my own home after adopting six kids from Ethiopia—that my lifelong passion transformed into a zeal much like Jeremiah described in the Scriptures as “a fire shut up in my bones. I am weary of holding it in; indeed, I cannot” (Jeremiah 20:9). [Those of you who have ever followed my blogs or Facebook are probably nodding your head with gusto right about now and thinking that is the understatement of the year.]
Thanks in no small part to social media, the adoption community has grown rapidly over the last few years. The evolution of blogging, tweeting, and Facebooking has proven absolutely invaluable for the sake of the orphan, both in simple awareness and in fundraising. In turn, the adoption community has exploded online into a mighty force for the Kingdom as well as a unique support network for adoptive families. For all of the evils and annoyances of social media (and there are plenty), these are the things that make it worthwhile as a redemptive tool in the Kingdom.
During the last couple of years of watching this virtual adoption community increase exponentially, I have noticed that the collective passion has transformed into a collective zeal for the sake of the orphan. The Church, slowly but surely even if still with a long way to go, is awakening to God’s heart for the most vulnerable. THIS IS A GREAT THING and particularly refreshing for those of us who tend to feel like the social justice oddballs in the Church. I believe that God must be incredibly pleased with this awakening. In fact, since it is HIS movement in HIS Church for the sake of HIS children, I am sure of it.
While observing and cheering on this movement for the orphan, however—and particularly during extended quieted seasons when the Lord has asked me to turn inward and sanctify myself for Him—God has been gently showing me that we can very subtly pervert this miraculous movement of God into a ministry that misses both the point (serving Jesus) and the target (the lost world). We can very easily veer from the precipitating Person of our passion until we are no longer following Jesus into the world, but instead building a ministry to others as a cloak for making a name for ourselves—even amidst all of our so-called self-sacrificing. It is a fine line, yes, but one that distinguishes between serving our Savior because of His righteousness and serving our self-righteousness in the name of our Savior.
This is not a new danger for Christ’s followers, for it afflicts ancient and modern believers alike. Christ’s own disciples were scolded on more than one occasion for turning their commission from Christ into their own ministry, albeit all for the Kingdom, or so they were intending. After Jesus sent out the seventy-two to go two-by-two in His name throughout the region, Luke writes that they returned “with joy,” thrilled that “even the demons submit” to them (Luke 10:17). Jesus didn’t exactly holy-high-five them and express His prodigious pride in them for “getting it” (a phrase us adoption/orphan advocates use frequently when describing ourselves vs. those who haven’t jumped onboard the orphan bandwagon). Instead, Jesus reminds the seventy-two of Satan’s fall from Heaven (remember that ugly sin of pride?) and told them, “Whoa, slow down that kind of talk. Don’t go around jumping for joy that you’re some mighty Kingdom force. No, just be thankful that you’re Mine. Period…” (Luke 10:20, my translation). In other words, we are to “fix our eyes [only] on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith” (Hebrews 12:2, NIV). Seem simple?
It’s easy to look around and point out the idols of our surrounding Babylon, but it’s a bit trickier (and far less pleasurable) to reflect inward on our own hearts and honestly consider that we might ourselves have turned a gospel of redemption for the orphan into a platform for our own righteousness (and thus an idol). We can fall into the temptation to compare our own passion for justice for the poor with the “little” that others are doing, and suddenly we feel a little more than righteous. Remembering that “our acts of righteousness are filthy rags,” we ought to steer very clear of any such comparisons to others (Isaiah 64:6).
I often hear adoption and orphan advocates talking in terms of those who “get it” and those who don’t. On the surface, I understand, and I’ve been guilty of the same chatter (probably in the last 24 hours, if I’m guessing). But maybe, just maybe, in the midst of us “getting” this orphan thing down right, we’re not actually getting it. Maybe we—those of us who claim collectively to “get it”—are treading dangerously close to missing the point entirely. If we’re not extremely careful, we can pervert the “true religion” of James 1:27 into religious legalism, holding up a religious measuring stick by which we judge others who aren’t in our “camp.”(Does the label Pharisee scare anyone?) Let’s check out this parable together and refresh our collective memory:
To some who were confident of their own righteousness and looked down on everyone else, Jesus told this parable: “Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. The Pharisee stood by himself and prayed: ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other people—robbers, evildoers, adulterers—or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week and give a tenth of all I get.’ But the tax collector stood at a distance. He would not even look up to heaven, but beat his breast and said, ‘God, have mercy on me, a sinner.’ I tell you that this man, rather than the other, went home justified before God. For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.” (Luke 18:9-14, emphasis mine)
Ouch.
Would not the saddest irony be for believers in the orphan movement today to get “true religion” but become true religious Pharisees in the process? Church, let us be so cautious. Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, not on ourselves or on others. Let us not pursue adoption or orphan care because it is the newest, trendiest stamp of righteousness in the Church. Let us not become advocates because so-and-so did and “has such a great story” and we want to be just like them. Or so that we can proudly wave our own banners and get some attention in the Kingdom. We serve but one Master, and “no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him” (John 13:16). As Jedd Medefind reminded us at Summit VII, we cannot truly reflect Jesus “if we aren’t hungry for Him and in love with HIM.” We will instead reflect our own selves and our own zeal from a dimly lit bulb, all the while foolishly screaming the self-righteous message “My light is brighter than yours.”
There is one Great Light of the world that we are to reflect. Church, it’s time to check our motives. What is fueling our passion for the orphan? Have we gotten off-target? Have we made an idol of adoption? Has our own passion become our precipitator? Have we begun to serve a cause instead of our Christ? Have we made “true religion” our own “little g” god? Don’t think that it’s not a possibility. Just ask the Pharisees. After all, they thought they “got it.”
If we truly want to impact our world, as I believe those involved in orphan care earnestly desire to purely do, let’s bow at Jesus’ feet and serve Him alone. In turn, the orphan gets rescued, the lost found, the imprisoned set free, and the abused redeemed, and Jesus alone will get the glory. Isn’t that what this is all about, anyway?
Praise Him. The Capital G God. Hallelujah forever.